If you don’t know if, draft no. 2

I know the awkward stand one takes

when passing ‘round the hors d’oeuvre tray 

If you don’t know if your friend likes brats

I don’t know if you’re friends or not.

If you don’t know if, draft no. 1

I know the awkward stand one makes

When everyone around seems to know enough to know who their friends are
who they are

And which of them likes olives and which of them does not

If you don’t know if your friend likes olives, why not?

I don’t know if you are friends or not.